When we take the hand
of another human being
and feed her when she is hungry
comfort him when he is sad
When we take the hand
of another human being
and pray with her the prayers
hold him in our arms
When we take the hand
of ourselves
and love the hand that holds us
and feel equality caress us
We know the hand
we know the need
we know the prayer
we know it all …
The best thing that can happen to you is doubt
Doubt takes you beyond knowing
Doubt takes you beyond the absolute
Doubt takes you into disidentification
Doubt takes you into: “I don’t know”
Doubt takes you into Space
Doubt takes you into Love
Doubt takes you into You …
Where doubt arises,
Love can grow
Where there is doubt,
You are …
Every word we use, we were taught
Every meaning of a word we use, we were taught
Every word is the verbalization of an impuls, a sensation we feel in the body
Every verbalization is an attempt to put into words what can not be put into words
Every feeling that is put into words
Every thought that is put into words
Every memory, association, perception that is put into words
Is an attempt to point at something which is beyond words
What is love
What is tenderness
What is compassion
Maybe we can not express what something is
Maybe we can only be what we are …
“What we do is to snap the brain out of it”: that is a frequent used quote by Cesar Millan, the dogwhisperer.
I sat with that quote for somehow I felt there was something so deep and true in it. “We snap the brain out of it, before it escalates; before it goes to the red zone”. The red zone is most of the time the state in which the dog attacks and can not be controled any longer.
I began translating this quote to what I do with people, when they come to me for help. In most cases the people who come to me, want help with the on going thoughtstream in their head. They feel stressed and often they suffer from burnout symptoms.
What could be the case is this.
The brain receives impulses and produces thoughts and the mind, as identified consciousness, attaches to those thoughts and takes them for real. When the mind is stopped in that identifying process by being confronted it with the reality of the moment, the “mind is snapped out of it”. The mind has this identifying habit and is conditioned to do so for thousands of years. It is not personal. It comes with the human species. So when we confront the mind with itself and when we hold up the mirror so the mind can see itself, then it is possible that the mind stops and “is snapped out of it”.
Finding the absolute truth in ourselves by asking ourselves if it is true what we believe and waiting for the heart, intuition, cosmic intelligence, or whatever, to answer from the depth of our being, stops the identifying process. And when we do that often enough, the mind will gradually get used to the conditioning of investigating thoughts , before believing thoughts.
Cesar Millan is the whisperer for dogs. We can all be the whisperer for people. Holding up the mirror, asking if it is true, is what we can do. It takes time to get used to this new way of looking at our thoughts. I think the time is right to dive in the depths that are waiting inside of us. And what I found is that that depth has no ending …
Blessing on the journey into yourself; the journey without end and without distance …
Show me the place
where words are still
and thoughts are gone
Show me the place
where tears may fall
and arms will hold
Show me the place
where stillness grows
and silence speaks
Show me the place
where you are home
and never leave …
Once upon a time
I believed
that after Christmas
the world would be different:
full of peace, full of light and love.
Once upon a time
I believed
that after Newyear’s Eve
the world would be different:
full of peace, full of light and love
Now
I know
that before and after Christmas
before and after Newyear’s Eve
the world in me eternally is the same:
full of peace, full of light and love ..
Walking in the pristine snow
with almost silent sound of falling snow
the tears of Gratitude pour out
and melt the white sweet cover
I feel the lively essence
of what I AM in me
and have no words for that
which is alive in me
How can I define this wonder
and bind it to some words?
Life is the wordless beauty
present in the stillness
of freshly fallen snow …
If I don’t judge
I can not see the world
Every word I use
is a judgment
We were taught
that we should not judge
And what are we doing all day long?
Right, judging.
In spiritual circles
they tell us
that you don’t judge anymore
when you are ‘spiritual mature enough’
And what do we do?
Right, we judge.
Who is judging what is spiritual and what is not?
Is not-judging of a higher spiritual order than judging?
When you yourself ‘don’t judge anymore’
then how would you know that ‘the other one still judges’?
Every judgment is God, Consciousness
disguised as judgment
helping you to see You
So wonderful that I judge
So wonderful that you judge
and that we use and investigate
and don’t believe those judgments any more …
Blessings on your journey to No-mans-land
where Stillness is the king
Blessings on your journey to Inquiry
where Depth will be your guide
Blessings on your journey to ‘I don’t know’
where Light is teaching you
Blessings on your journey to Home At Last
where You are always home …
When there is no “I” who listens
there is no “I” who reacts
Then there is only: listening
What a precious enormous gift
to the other
to yourself …
Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You can call it compassionate listening. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart. Even if he says things that are full of wrong perceptions, full of bitterness, you are still capable of continuing to listen with compassion. Because you know that listening like that, you give that person a chance to suffer less. If you want to help him to correct his perception, you wait for another time. For now, you don’t interrupt. You don’t argue. If you do, he loses his chance. You just listen with compassion and help him to suffer less. One hour like that can bring transformation and healing.
~Thich Nhat Hanh
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