conditioning

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Words

Every word we use, we were taught
Every meaning of a word we use, we were taught

Every word is the verbalization of an impuls, a sensation we feel in the body
Every verbalization is an attempt to put into words what can not be put into words

Every feeling that is put into words
Every thought that is put into words
Every memory, association, perception that is put into words
Is an attempt to point at something which is beyond words

What is love
What is tenderness
What is compassion

Maybe we can not express what something is
Maybe we can only be what we are …

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Terrorist

Who or what was killed?

When I heard the words
that a terrorist was killed
and that that made many people
very very happy

It felt not good inside of me

What are those people happy about?
Is it the deep seated mind set:
An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth?
And:
What you have done unto me, I will do unto you
And:
I know what is right and what is wrong
And:
You will suffer as much as I have suffered?

I don’t say that what we or he did was right or wrong
I just ask myself some questions
So the answers can surface from deep down

And deep down
there are tears,
there is compassion
for the suffering
of so many ceatures
– humans, animals, trees, plants, the earth –
inflicted upon by unconscious creatures
again and again and again

Seeing the terroist in me
Holding it, embracing it,
lets something surface
that is beyond right or wrong
and that …
that has no word …

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Peoplewhisperer

“What we do is to snap the brain out of it”: that is a frequent used quote by Cesar Millan, the dogwhisperer.

I sat with that quote for somehow I felt there was something so deep and true in it. “We snap the brain out of it, before it escalates; before it goes to the red zone”. The red zone is most of the time the state in which the dog attacks and can not be controled any longer.

I began translating this quote to what I do with people, when they come to me for help. In most cases the people who come to me, want help with the on going thoughtstream in their head. They feel stressed and often they suffer from burnout symptoms.

What could be the case is this.
The brain receives impulses and produces thoughts and the mind, as identified consciousness, attaches to those thoughts and takes them for real. When the mind  is stopped in that identifying process by being confronted it with the reality of the moment, the “mind is snapped out of it”. The mind has this identifying habit and is conditioned to do so for thousands of years. It is not personal. It comes with the human species. So when we confront the mind with itself and when we hold up the mirror so the mind can see itself, then it is possible that the mind stops and “is snapped out of it”.

Finding the absolute truth in ourselves by asking ourselves if it is true what we believe and waiting for the heart, intuition, cosmic intelligence, or whatever, to answer from the depth of our being, stops the identifying process. And when we do that often enough, the mind will gradually get used to the conditioning of investigating thoughts , before believing thoughts.

Cesar Millan is the whisperer for dogs. We can all be the whisperer for people. Holding up the mirror, asking if it is true, is what we can do. It takes time to get used to this new way of looking at our thoughts. I think the time is right to dive in the depths that are waiting inside of us. And what I found is that that depth has no ending …

Blessing on the journey into yourself; the journey without end and without distance …

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Expectation

When we decide
what our destination is
could we be wrong?
Who is deciding?
What is a destination?

When we stop and feel
what the inner guide tells us
about a direction we can take,

Can we then feel the aliveness,
the unexpectednesss, the unknown,
the adventure, the spontaneity,
the openess, the playfulness?

Expectation of an outcome
is wanting the outcome to happen.

To take one step
in a direction
makes that step
the most important thing
there is
in our life

And then we feel
that the journey of life
is just
one
step …

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Manifesto for you

Beloved,
What I want to create with me and you and in me and you is a space where there is no male or female, where there is being conscious of the deeper inner dimension we all carry, a space where there is a safe and loving space where we can look at our conditioning, a place where tears can cleanse our cheeks and heal the wounds, a place where all is welcomed and all is embraced, a place where we can finally come home …

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Judging

If I don’t judge
I can not see the world
Every word I use
is a judgment

We were taught
that we should not judge
And what are we doing all day long?
Right, judging.

In spiritual circles
they tell us
that you don’t judge anymore
when you are ‘spiritual mature enough’

And what do we do?
Right, we judge.

Who is judging what is spiritual and what is not?
Is not-judging of a higher spiritual order than judging?

When you yourself ‘don’t judge anymore’
then how would you know that ‘the other one still judges’?

Every judgment is God, Consciousness
disguised as judgment
helping you to see You

So wonderful that I judge
So wonderful that you judge
and that we use and investigate
and don’t believe those judgments any more …