I am afraid of dying

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This is an example of how The Work of Byron Katie could unfold on the thought: 

“I am afraid of dying”

Q: “You are afraid of dying: Is it true?”
A: “Yes”
Q: “You are afraid of dying: Can you absolutely know that it is true?”
A: “………”
Q: “Where is your mind going?”
A: “I don’t know where it is going”.
Q: “OK, You are afraid of dying: Can you absolutely know that it is true?”
A: “…………. No, I can not know”
Q: “How do you react when you believe the thought: I am afraid of dying?”
A: “My body is tense, the mind goes nuts, I can not stop crying, I don’t want to go out of the house anymore, I only want to lie in bed all day, I do not want to be with people”
Q: “Yes, and how do you treat others when you believe the thought: I am afraid of dying?”
A: “I treat them as if they are my enemies. I believe they can harm me. I do not want to touch them. I do not want to talk to them. I isolate myself.”
Q: “How do you live your life when you believe the thought: I am afraid of dying”.
A: “I do everything to stay healthy. I avoid everything that is unhealthy. And at the same time I do all kinds of unhealthy things like overeating, pills, etc.”
Q: “So does the thought: I am afraid of dying, give you peace or stress into your life?”
A: “A lot of stress, definitely”
Q: “Who would you be without the thought: I am afraid of dying?”
A: “I don’t know”
Q: “How would you live your life without the thought: I am afraid of dying?”
A: ” …………….. I would be more at peace, more relaxed, I feel now that I am breathing deeper. It is hard to imagine me without this thought. It has been with me for so long………”
Q: “I am afraid of dying: can you turn it around?”
A: “I am not afraid of dying”
Q: “Sit with this and feel if it fits you as a new shoe. Does it feel as true or truer than the thought: I am afraid of dying?”
A: “It feels unusual. It feels more open”.
Q: “Can you find another turnaround: I am afraid of dying. What is the opposite of dying?”
A: “I am afraid of living. That makes a lot of sense. Right now I am alive. I am not dying. I don’t even know what dying feels like”.

“Yes, I suggest you play with the turnarounds, your thoughts and the questions. They will always lead you to You”